We want everyone to be like us.
I accept you as you are, we say to all. But how many times do we actually do so? Acceptance is not a one time thing. It comes in every day, every time, at every point. So often we aren’t able to accept a few things about people. And much later we realize that deep down we haven’t been able to accept something or the other about ourselves. How do you accept anybody else if you can’t accept yourself completely in the first place?
Usually we have a few qualities or habits which we don’t like about ourselves, the ones we can’t come to terms with, and hence we ignore it. We pretend that it isn’t a part of us. Good or bad, we need to accept each and every factor. How else will you know who and how you are? Most of us live in denial, live in an illusion about ourselves. We like to believe what we want to about ourselves. Closing your eyes to what you don’t want to see, doesn’t make it disappear. You increase the complication. Confusion and chaos is what follows, leaving you with a lingering headache.
So let’s remember: Not accepting parts of you doesn’t make them go away.
We don’t realize the importance of accepting every tiny part of us. Coming to terms with every side of you holds a very big part in how you treat others.
You can’t tell someone how they should be living their life. How they should be dealing with something which is a part of them. Why should they deal with it any differently than they are, if they like how it is? Because you’re the one who has a problem?
It’s difficult to not have an issue with something you can’t stand, even when you know you do it too. And especially when it’s coming from someone who’s very close to you. You are human and some things are a part of human behaviour. You cannot change it. Accept it and move on.
Easier said than done? Probably it is and you just haven’t tried enough.
If you are entitled to live your life your way, so is everyone else. Accept. Digest. Adapt.
And don’t forget to give yourself enough time to get through it all.